Sacrifices are a part of life. If you’re an adult today and you don’t remember making sacrifices, giving up something you want for the sake of another person, then you’re terribly selfish. Living goes beyond living just for yourself. One special spice of life is going out of your way to light up someone else’s life. The joy it brings, knowing you’ve made a meaningful impact in someone’s life, is beyond mere physical pleasure.
If you’re a friend to someone, and you can’t be there for the person in his/her time of need because it’s an inconvenience to you, that relationship needs to be reconsidered. Don’t even call it a friendship, you guys are just acquainted with each other. Most likely one person is using the other. Continue reading “HOPE OF A WORLD HEREAFTER”
I’m nice by nature. I love being nice. It’s nice to be nice. But life rolled me some dice, that made me pause and reconsider my niceness.
I almost stopped being nice. I wanted to stop being nice. I paused at being nice. But life threw me some more dice, that made me pause and reconsider my unniceness. Continue reading “BE NICE, BUT THINK TWICE”
I thought you were my friend. I thought you liked me very much. I took you as my friend. And I’ve grown to like you very much. But I’m beginning to have my doubts, I really am. I’ve tried quite hard to understand it all, I really have. And finally, I’ve come to one conclusion: it’s either you don’t really care like you claim, or you’re as blind as a bat. Maybe blinder, if there ever was such a thing. Continue reading “MALICIOUS SILENCE: REVERSED”
Have you ever been in a situation where someone with whom you regularly interact with suddenly stops responding to you? Yet they act like nothing is wrong? But you know that you know that you know something is wrong? I have. Several times. And it drives me crazy. I call it malicious silence. Yes it’s malicious. Why keep silent when you’re offended, you respond coldly or not at all, yet when asked you say nothing is wrong? But you continue acting all weird? Continue reading “MALICIOUS SILENCE”
You are not listening to me when:
You say you understand before you know me well enough
You have an answer to my problems before I’ve finished telling you what my problem is
You cut me off before I’ve finished speaking….
These words hit me as I read through a post. It hit me because I can identify with it all too clearly. For every relationship (parent-child, siblings, friends, couples, etc), there has to be a communication, and for every communication there has to be an understanding, and for every understanding there has to be a listening. But sadly, we either don’t know, or don’t bother to put to work the art of listening. Continue reading “LISTENING EAR: ART OF LISTENING”
Why do we spend so much time and care on things rather than on people? It was a gift to you? Don’t you think that person is also a gift to you? Or he has to come specially packaged and wrapped and delivered right on your doorstep before you believe he’s a gift to you? Think again. Could you be spending more of your time and care on those things because they were so expensive, or they boost your ego, or they make you the envy of town, or they make you look beautiful or you can’t imagine doing without them or…. There could be lots of reasons. I choose to call them excuses. When you begin to spend more time and care on things than on people, you’ve crossed the line from being a great you to a not-so-good you. Continue reading “RELATIONSHIPS pt3”
Most often the issue is that we don’t want to see things for what they really are. We prefer viewing things in colour mode; this one has gone beyond shades of grey, its now correct colour in all its hues and tints. But sadly, we’re the ones that lose out.
What would the world be like if for one day; just one day, for 24hours, everyone is honest with everyone else? Continue reading “RELATIONSHIPS pt2”